How to Know If She is the One
While no man gets married with the hope of getting divorced especially as divorce is an expensive and emotionally draining process, sadly, many have tied the knot and headed to the divorce court months or years later.
Reasons may be because they found out they can’t give all of themselves in their marriage, or they have irreconcilable differences even from the start.
All of these drawbacks are avoidable if you can confidently tell if she’s the one for you.
Thankfully, according to relationship experts, and successfully married men there are sure-fire ways to find out if she’s the one before bending your knee.
With these 13 attributes, you might not even have to have a prenup because it’s going to be till death do you both apart.
See effective ways to know if she’s the one;
1. You Long to Share Everything With Her
“Our minds are a vital part of our being, and when it tells us to share a part of us constantly with the one we’re in a relationship with, whether fear, good news, anger, or joy, it usually means they’ve become a part of our soul, and as such when we hold back anything from them, we feel a sense of dissatisfaction,” says Janne a relationship coach.
This means if you’re eager to share your experiences or feelings with your woman, she’s Mrs. Right.
2. You Picture Her in Your Future
Imaginations can tell how far we’re willing to go with a person. That’s why it’s an effective way of knowing if a woman is the one for you.
“Can you imagine sleeping next to her after a rough day, celebrating your children’s graduation with her, or growing grey hair together? When you can do these, you can shop for an engagement ring to slide down her finger,” says Eugene a Califonia-based relationship expert and author.
3. She Believes in Your Dream
Not everyone would have the courage to believe in your dreams. However, if you’ve found someone who listens to you as you share your dreams and even offers you some advice while at it, you can say you’ve found the one.
Marriage expert, Dr. Sandra adds that “a woman who loves her husband typically supports his dreams both financially and morally. Besides, this belief makes a man feel more confident in his abilities. Therefore, men who aren’t married yet should look for this trait in their partners.”
4. She’s Always There
Marriage, more so life, isn’t always a rosy journey, that’s why you must find someone who isn’t there just for the good times.
“Before marriage, my wife has seen me in my most vulnerable state. She was there when I couldn’t find my friends. That was all I needed to know she was for keeps, after all, marriage would never be a bed of roses,” says 47-year-old Dan married for 15 years.
5. You Believe She’d Make a Great Wife
“Sometimes all it takes is your conviction. Do you believe your partner would fulfill your idea of whom a wife should be? If you can say yes without a doubt, then you can both say your vows,” says Dr. Sandra.
6. You Communicate Effortlessly with Each Other
Communication is the bedrock of a lasting relationship.
“Lack of proper communication leads to misunderstanding leading to irreconcilable differences, which is a major cause of divorce today,” says marriage therapist, Sarah Kennedy.
Hence, your communication shouldn’t just end at understanding your words but reading your minds, too.
7. You Seek Her Happiness
A lasting marriage is one with selfless couples. Selflessness helps to make both partners happy.
“The day I sacrificed my favorite pizza for my current wife even while I was starving just so she gets to eat when she comes back from work, was the moment I knew I was ready to be with her forever, ” says Frank a happily married 27-year-old man.
Other forms of this sacrifice include traveling miles for her sake, taking risks because of her, or even dropping a habit because of her.
8. You Consider Her as Your Best Friend
Friendship is a fundamental element of a thriving relationship and by extension, marriage.
By considering your partner as your best friend with whom you’d always share the best and worst moments in life, you can tell you both would be willing to make it work.
9. You Trust Each Other
Trust is what binds a relationship together. Hence it must be mutual. The degree of trust you have in your partner to never betray you is a clear indication that she’s the right one for you.
“If your woman is not one to create a seed of distrust in you through actions like utilizing phonechatlines.com to engage in romantic chats with other people while with you, it’s a sign of respect encouraging you to make her your one and only,” says Sarah.
10. She Helps You Become a Better Person
From our online survey, many happily married men who are also successful career-wise gave a uniform opinion about why they think their wives was the one.
“I have done a lot for myself before meeting my wife. Nonetheless, meeting her motivated me to want to achieve more. I simply realized that even though I was a doctorate holder, I strived to study for my Ph.D.,” says John a 35-year-old Ph.D. holder married for six years.
Moreover, Kenneth a relationship expert agrees with this opinion as he says, “whether it’s your temperament, character or career, being with the right person helps you manifest your full potential. And when you’ve found the one, it, therefore, means both parties are growing and can show that they’ve been a huge part of each other’s success.”
11. She Makes You Feel Good
It’s important you clearly understand the feeling she arouses inside of you when you are with her or think about her. A good partner would give you the impression that you are perfect enough for her and whatever you represent is what she loves about you.
“Do you know many women who’re married to outlaws have confessed to only seeing the good in their spouses? This means, despite their illicit ways, they made their men feel good about themselves. So if you’re marrying a lady, you should be sure she’s not making you feel less of yourself nor is she pointing out the worst in you,” says Dr. Sandra.
12. She Invests In the Relationship Along With You
“Commitment is a crystal clear way to show how much we strive to keep our relationship,” says, marriage expert, Anne Franklin.
If she doesn’t leave you to do all the work in the relationship, she’s sure demonstrating her willingness to make the relationship work between you two.
13. She Complements You
“In as much as it’s important to share a good dose of similarity with our partners, it’s also necessary that they complement us in some ways, ” says relationship therapist Dr. Simeon.
If she demonstrates strength in your weakness, it’s a positive sign that she’s the one for you.
While all of these are effective in helping you see if she’s the one for you, they also help you realize if you’re the one for them. So endeavor to consider each point with respect to you two.
